Are We There Yet?
Are we there yet? If you are a parent and have spent more than 30 minutes in a car with your kids, I am sure you have heard those “fingernails on the chalkboard” words. Without fail, when we are on any family trip, my kids will fire that question at me. I appreciate their eagerness to get wherever it is we are going, but wow, it can be annoying.
Early on in ministry at Real Life Ministries, the world seemed to move at a breakneck pace. The church was growing at an incredible rate, and many years just felt like all we could do was keep our noses above water. We kicked, paddled and swam with a fervor, wondering, “Are we there yet?”
One day, I was at lunch with a great friend of mine. God often used him in my life to speak truth and challenge me in areas of weakness. I was complaining about the pressure of ministry, and how much we had to do. I think several times in the conversation I started sentences out with “If we could just…”. It had a ringing similarity to the notion of “Are we there yet?” My friend looked back at me and asked me a great question. “What if the journey is the destination?”
Huh? With scrunched eyebrows and a growl in my voice, I said, “What the heck is that supposed to mean?”
It took several days for that idea to penetrate my thick skull. I remember an analogy that came to mind.
When hunting, I have learned that to truly enjoy the hunt, I do not focus on the kill. I focus on just being in God’s creation. The hike through the forest, the sound of elk bugling, the brilliant colors of changing leaves are all things I enjoy on the way. Actually getting the animal is a bonus. If my focus is on arriving at the desired destination, it can cause me to miss the journey.
God wants us to focus on the now – what He is doing in us today. I love this quote from A.W. Tozer:
“God formed us for His pleasure, and so formed us that we, as well as he, can in divine communion, enjoy the sweet and mysterious mingling of kindred personalities.”
To me this quote says that God just wants to be with us, in relationship. This is divine communion. I need to stop and quit asking “Are we there yet?” Rather, I must focus on God being with me now and reflect on the adventure He and I are on together. So, I challenge you to remove some of your destination mindset. Pause, and enjoy the journey with your kids, friends, and loved ones. Truthfully, the journey is the destination.